Books That Will Change the Way You Think About Love

Tomorrow is Valentine’s Day, love is in the air… but wait a second, what is love, anyway? For anyone who’s ever wanted a satisfying answer to that question — you know, besides, “Baby, don’t hurt me no more” — we’ve put together a list of great books that will challenge your assumptions about love, sex, and relationships. From a surprisingly short history of heterosexuality and an attack on monogamy to a classic novel of betrayal and an exploration of a different sort of love altogether, there’s something to shock, test, and perhaps even titillate you after the jump.

Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality by Hanne Blank

It might feel as old as Adam and Eve, but the concept of heterosexuality (and, for that matter, homosexuality) is only about 150 years old, invented by a German who we might now consider an early gay rights activist. In her smart and subversive new book, Straight, Hanne Blank — who offered similarly mind-blowing revelations on virginity just a few years ago –  traces the idea through history, ultimately arguing that heterosexuality is a limiting and outdated social construct.

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And Eric Fromm's The Art of Loving - a masterpiece.

What We Talk About When We Talk About Love, by Raymond Carver

Why is sex fun? by Jared Diamond. The science of sexuality and attraction. Or any of Desmond Morris' books on pair bonding in animals and humans. Both will truly enlighten on why we continue to fall in love and mate.

And a vote to NOT read Sex At Dawn... for it will severely dent your intelligence.

What?!You forgot about Sex at Dawn! 4th vote here ;)

I'm glad to see Stephanie Coontz included here. But where is Joseph Dispenza's "Older Man, Younger Man"? You really missed the boat by not including that.

Here's a third vote for Sex At Dawn!

Do they have to be non-fiction books? I would add "The Scarlet Letter," which describes the tension Hawthorne felt about women as sex objects.

Yes, I absolutely second "Sex at Dawn" - a must read!

I'd recommend a new book which you can find at Amazon - Linda Commito's "Love is the New Currency". Lovely, inspirational, touching, meaningful, and an excellent read, hard to put down.

I'd add Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá to see how it all began and what it really means to us now. A fun ride!

i'd add "the evolution of bruno littlemore" to this list for its human/simian love.